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Alzheimer's ...for caregivers

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Thank you for this wonderful web site. My husband is in the early stages of AD and has been diagnosed in 1998 and has been on Aricept since then. I think your outlook was great and there were bad days for you. My Faith really helps me. I pray for patience but I just love the way you put everything in perspective. I want to you know you really helped me in my way of thinking and if you really love someone you can do what is necessary for them to live a life with dignity. thank you again and God Bless.

Joannie

Dear Beverly,
I found your website today and am relieved to know someone is demystifying incontinence.

Sincere Thanks, Martha B. ,Charlotte, NC

Dear Beverly,
Thank you for reminding me that it is just poop. God bless you for providing the service you do with your website. It is not only a source of very useful information, but a source of strength.

Sincerely, George S.

Subject: Just saw your website
Date: 3/27/02 9:05:02 AM Pacific Standard Time

Hi! I just came across your website and after reading some of it briefly, I was compelled to write to you.

You see my home is composed of me & my husband, 4 young children (12, 10, 5 & 8 months), and my mother-in-law who has Alzheimer's. We've been caring for her for 9 years now.

Recently, we've seen major declines in her health (incontinent, not feeding herself, hardly
any conversations). Anyway, my point is: I'm so glad to read a personal story of someone who has experienced home-caregiving to the very end. I feel like a minority with this because everyone keeps telling me I should put mom in a nursing/assisted-living home. Then I get brainwashed and start thinking "logically" it does make sense: Have someone else change the diaper, have someone else wake up in the middle of the night to bring her to
the bathroom, have someone else bathe & change her, have someone else feed her. And all I would have to do is have some quality time when I visit her.

I admit it is extremely challenging and would be so easy to give in. (She does go to adult daycare 5 times a week) But, I truly feel that, no one can take better care of her than us. I just wish I can find a community of people who are home-caregiver. It would be so nice and give me strength to go on. Don't get me wrong - I don't mean to judge those who placed their loved ones in a home. I know that everyone has their own reasons and "breaking point" and I may just have my own "breaking point" I just wish I would get more support, positive feedback and encouragement then pity so that I don't get to that "point" too soon.

I look forward to reading your book! Thanks again for sharing your story. I love the pictures of you and your husband. He was a handsome one!

Sincerely, Ann D.